Leaving Neverland on HBO

MaleSurvivor is proud to work with HBO to promote an important presentation that carries great significance to the survivor community. When allegations of sexual abuse by Michael Jackson involving young boys surfaced in 1993, many found it hard to believe that he could be guilty of such unspeakable acts. Filmmaker Dan Reed’s two-part documentary film Leaving Neverland explores the separate but parallel experiences of two young boys, James “Jimmy” Safechuck, at age 10, and Wade Robson, at age 7, who were both befriended by the star. They and their families were invited into the celebrity’s enchanted world of magic and fairy tales.

You may also be interested to see this conversation hosted by Oprah Winfrey featuring Wade Robson and James Safechuck, or the official HBO Viewer Guide. Read an exclusive response from Howard Fradkin, Ph.D. on Oprah’s special.


Healing is infinitely accentuated when done in community. On Wednesday, February 28th, Oprah Winfrey once again empowered an entire community of survivors, their families and allies. The taping of the show was made much more special for me because of a number of WOR alumni (at least 10 I know of) who were in the audience

Read more, from Howard Fradkin, Ph.D.



As many of you have noticed, the MaleSurvivor Membership Program was temporarily suspended for the past two years so that we could re-evaluate the manner in which it was administered and maintained, as well as to evaluate the benefits that we were able to consistently offer to our members. During that period of time, although we did not issue membership renewal invoices, we continued to provide members with access to our member only discussion boards, and we enabled all individuals to attend our healing events at a membership rate.

We are happy to announce that our formal membership program is once again active! Beginning September 2018, we ask that if you were a former member of MaleSurvivor, you please renew your membership, which is valid for a 12 month period. By doing so, you will receive the following benefits:

  • Online discussion forum: member only area
  • Chat rooms with mental health professionals through our website
  • Mental Health and other professionals can register their services in MaleSurvivor’s Resource Directory
  • Reduced rates for our Conferences, Healing Events, and Professional Training Sessions.
  • The personal satisfaction of knowing that you are supporting an extensive effort to support male survivors, educate others, and actively address this under-recognized societal problem.

Renew your membership now.


Listen as Dr. Richard Gartner, nationally recognized expert in male sexual abuse draws upon his decades of clinical work and his two new edited books, Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men: The Trauma of Sexual Abuse AND Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys: Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma (in press) to invite understanding and healing of sexually betrayed man and boys.

Understanding and Healing Sexually Betrayed Boys and Men


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Facilitating Male Trauma Survivors’ Meaningful Involvement in Health Research

Sexual abuse is an international problem and an often overlooked public health issue for men and boys. Given the prevalence of trauma and its well-documented connection to mental and physical health disorders, the relevance of male survivor input and engagement in healthcare research is profound.

With funding by the Patient-Centered Outcomes Research Institute, MaleSurvivor has partnered with researchers from Yale University Department of Psychiatry, Department of Veterans Affairs’ National Center for PTSD, and the American Psychological Association’s Division of Trauma Psychology in a project to gain understanding of male trauma survivors’ perspectives on involvement in research and equip and empower them to play active and substantive roles as equitable partners in all aspects of research.

Video: Chris Anderson, Male Trauma Expert

Viedo: Amy E. Ellis, Ph.D.


MenHealing is a 501c3 non-profit, tax-exempt organization dedicated to providing healing resources for male-identified individuals age 18 and older who have experienced sexual trauma during childhood or as adults. MenHealing insures the sustainability of the Weekend of Recovery program.

Weekend of Recovery retreats provide complementary support for any male-identified individual – 18 or older – who is a survivor of sexual trauma as a child and/or as an adult. By engaging participants in creating an environment that supports safety needs for male-identified survivors, our program format seeks to acknowledge and honor the authentic diversities of attendees at each WOR (sexuality, gender, racial, ethnic, class, spirituality, etc.). Alumni of WOR retreats report the experience contributed to easing their suffering; to enabling higher functioning; to facilitating  healthier relationships with friends, partners, children; to inspiring activism; and to diminishing the cycle of victimization.

For more information download this Weekend of Recovery Flyer (PDF) or visit MenHealing.org.


10 Daily Affirmations for Male Survivors

by Dr. Howard Fradkin
  1. Recovery is absolutely possible and achievable for me.
  2. I will practice being disloyal to dysfunction and loyal to functionality.
  3. I give myself permission to connect to loving, affirmative, strong, sensitive, accepting men and women in my community.
  4. I release and forgive myself for any responsibility I have accepted in the past for my abuse.
  5. The abuser(s) from the past chose to hurt me. I will stop repeating the lie that it just happened to me.
  6. Offering myself daily compassion is necessary for my healing and growth.
  7. I commit to connecting to the boy inside me today so we can play, laugh, and experience joy together, even if just for a minute or two.
  8. I believe deep inside me I possess the ability to face the truth of my abuse and to learn to use new tools for healing.
  9. I have the right and the ability to speak the truth of my abuse and deserve to be heard, understood. believed and supported.
  10. Feeling is healing. As I heal, I develop the ability to experience a wider range of emotions to enhance my health and connections to others.