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MaleSurvivor recognizes that sexual abuse can happen at any time to any one. While many of the men who come to MaleSurvivor are survivors of abuse that occurred in childhood (CSA), there are many survivors who experienced abuse as adults (ASA). ASA survivors face many, if not most, of the same challenges that CSA survivors face, but for them the pain can be even more significant. Most of the resources (all of the compassion and support!) found here are equally valid for survivors of adult abuse as well as survivors of abuse experienced in childhood. At MaleSurvivor we feel it is important to understand that it is possible for all survivors of abuse to receive and to share hope, healing, and support. We encourage ASA and CSA survivors.

We also offer the following resources specifically for survivors of abuse and sexual trauma experienced as adults.

ASA Forum - A discussion forum specifically reserved for those who experienced abuse as adults

MST Forum - A discussion forum specifically reserved for male survivors of military sexual trauma http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=91&page=1

Other resources for MST survivors:

PDF guides for Adult Survivors:

What do I - a male survivor who has been abused as an adult - need you to do if I tell you I have been sexually abused?

Articles by Survivors and Professionals

"I am not alone!"

This is possibly the most common phrase that survivors of sexual abuse internalize when they are able to finally reach out to friends, family, professionals, and organizations such as MaleSurvivor.

Sexual abuse inflicts severe emotional and often times physical trauma, and is a burden no human being is able to carry alone. Yet the fear we as survivors all share often lead to a life of silence, seclusion, and pain.

There is no longer a need to feel that you are alone. At MaleSurvivor we have been down the same road with the same feelings, fears, and seemingly overwhelming issues you have faced.

The simple act of your being here now indicates you are searching for answers, healing, recovery, and possibly a life you may not really believe you can ever have.

MaleSurvivor is committed to the healing and restoration of boys and men that have survived sexual abuse. We are committed to helping families and friends of survivors, and we are committed to educating, informing and preventing sexual abuse of anyone.

We are proud to host a discussion board and chat room on this site and invite you to explore these as well as all our resources. If you are searching for professional therapists we have a directory of professionals that have a special interest in helping survivors of sexual abuse.

We host conferences and our signature "weekends of recovery" program has helped countless survivors face the fears we all share and help us heal and recover from all the traumatic results of sexual abuse.

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First Steps to get Help by Howard R. Fradkin, Ph.D., LICDC

Oprah.Com Suggestions For Partners

Positive Traits and Strengths of Male Survivors by Howard R. Fradkin, Ph.D., LICDC

MaleSurvivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse - Looking Through a Gendered Lens by Lindsey Getz

A Consumers Guide To Therapist Shopping by Ken Singer, LCSW

Breaking the Cycle of Self-Defeating Behaviors by Ken Singer, LCSW

Releasing The Somatic Responses To Trauma by Paul Linden, PhD

A letter to Pope John Paul the second: Re: your request for forgiveness by Daniel Peter

This is my story of mother-son incest by Anonymous

No One Was There: One survivors' journey by Fr. Robert D. Wheelock

Cinematic Depictions of Boyhood Sexual Victimization by Richard B. Gartner, Ph.D.

Sexually Abused Men, Sexually Abused Boys - Transcript by Richard Gartner, PhD

Child Is Father To The Man by A Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Disclosure and Confrontation: Considerations for Survivors by Ken Singer, LCSW

My Dad by Anonymous

Are we not Men? by John Fowler

Mother-Son Incest by Fred Mimmack, M.D.

Healing Time by Reginald Walker

Thoughts From A Former Piece of Property by John Fowler

The Sin of Forgiveness by Frank Fitzpatrick, Survivor Connections, Inc.

Abuse: A Male View Anonymous, New Zealand

Couldn't have written this one any better myself... by K. Sullivan

Reversal of Fortune: The Rape of Men by Women by Jarrod Reich 45KB