MaleSurvivor Announces 2014 Weekend of Recovery Calendar
MaleSurvivor is proud to announce our 2014 schedule for the Weekends of Recovery program, which will be our 48th-54th sponsored weekends. We thank all of the alumni of the weekends who have helped us create a safe, challenging and empowering weekend experience. Please read the testimonies of former participants on our website if you need some encouragement to sign up. If you have questions about the weekend after you read the descriptions provided on this website, please email one of our Chairpeople, Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., at firstname.lastname@example.org or Jim Struve, LCSW, at email@example.com.
Level I Weekends are open to all survivors, 18 or older, regardless of where you are in your recovery process. The Advanced Weekend is open only to alumni of a MaleSurvivor Level I weekend. Here is the schedule for 2014:
Level I Weekends Information:
Dates for 2014:
|7/11 - 7/13/14||Level 1 WoR||Guest House - Chester, CT|
|8/15 - 8/17/14||Advanced WoR||Relationship & Intimacy Theme (spouses/partners available to attend) Alta Lodge - Alta, UT|
|9/19 - 9/21/14||Level 1 WoR||Alta Lodge - Alta, UT|
|10/17 - 10/19/14||Level 1 WoR||Hope Springs - Peebles, OH|
Advanced Weekend of Recovery: Open to Alumni of any Level I Weekend of Recovery.
Early registration discounts of $50 will be available for the 1st month registration is open. Paid members of MaleSurvivor will also receive $75 off their registration cost. Registration costs will be posted when registration is open for each weekend, and are dependent upon the type of accommodation you choose.
Below is a general description of the Level One Weekends of Recovery.
Goals of the Level I Weekend of Recovery
- To provide an opportunity to experience a safe environment in which participants can discover they are no longer alone in their recovery;
- To provide an opportunity to co-create and experience safety with other survivors as they explore further aspects of their healing journey;
- To provide an opportunity where survivors can share their inner pain, strength and hope with others who have been abused;
- To provide an opportunity for survivors to give a voice to their experiences as a survivor;
- To provide a safe way for participants to share the story of their abuse with others who will understand and offer support;
- To provide a safe place for participants to experiment with letting go, opening up and being vulnerable, and practice asking for the support they need;
- To provide an opportunity for participants to explore safe ways of going beyond their comfort zones, and to find ways to get beyond their blocks to move beyond their abuse to experience a greater sense of freedom in their minds, bodies, and spirits; and
- To provide a safe place where participants can experience a sense of community, brotherhood and joy.
Weekends of Recovery are facilitated by trained psychotherapists, utilizing the same clinical boundaries and code of ethics as adopted by the American Psychological Association. The weekends are adjuncts to participants' ongoing recovery work with individual and/or group psychotherapy, twelve step programs, and individual spiritual work, and are not meant to substitute for the participants' local support systems that are consistent with their own recovery. Dr. Howard Fradkin, a Psychologist with 30 years of experience working with male survivors, chairs the facilitator team. The team of facilitators includes other Psychologists, Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Mental Health Counselors. Biographies of all staff members for this weekend can be found on the MaleSurvivor website at www.malesurvivor.org
IS THIS FOR ME? HOW CAN I PREPARE FOR THE WEEKEND?
For those working with professionals, we recommend you discuss your planned participation in this weekend to get their feedback and suggestions for how you can benefit as much as possible from the experience while keeping yourself as safe as you need to be. All participants must be able to safely and appropriately engage in structured group activities. After receiving confirmation of your registration, if you are in therapy, please go the website and download the form for your therapist to complete which confirms you and your therapist agree you are prepared for the weekend. If you have an already established support system of friends/family members/significant others, we also encourage you to talk with them about your participation so they can be available both before and after the weekend as needed to help you prepare and process your experiences.
If you are not in therapy, and/or do not yet have a support network, we encourage you to consider setting up an appointment with a therapist either before you come to the retreat, or as soon as possible after your return, and/or encourage you to explore what types of self-help groups and resources are available in your community or near by. This way you can follow up on some of the experiences and skills you learn that will help the weekend's learning stay fresh in your mind and help you apply what skills and awareness would most help your continuing recovery.
One of our staff members will be contacting you by phone within two weeks of when we receive your application to talk with you about your needs for the weekend and your readiness to participate. All participants must be able to safely and appropriately engage in structured group activities. If we have any concerns about you participating, we may suggest some steps you can take to enhance your readiness for this weekend or we may ask you to wait for a future weekend while you take some additional steps we believe would be important for you to benefit from the experience. Please do not schedule your travel arrangements until after your interview is completed and you have been told you have been accepted as a participant. The facilitator team will make every effort to complete that process as quickly as possible. The earlier you register, the more possible that will be (which of course could help you save money on transportation and by getting an early registration discount).
You can read comments from other participants on our web page (see the testimonials section under the tab Weekends of Recovery). Many participants have told us that the weekend is a very intense and rewarding experience, and at the same time sometimes it is quite uncomfortable. We recognize that one of the challenges male survivors have is feeling comfortable enough to ask for help, especially when they are feeling most in need of the help. For participants who are aware they have a problem with dissociation, this can be an especially difficult challenge. We would encourage you to practice asking for help before the weekend, perhaps with your own therapist, as well as with friends and significant others, and to assess for yourself what gets in your way of asking for the help you need so you can let us know when we contact you prior to the retreat. The facilitators are all very skilled therapists, and often times we can be sensitive and intuitive enough to know you need help even when you are not asking. However, we will clearly need your help and ask you to take the risk to articulate your needs during the retreat. To the extent you can help us know you are needing some extra help at any time during the weekend, this will help you to have an even safer and hopefully more beneficial experience.
During the weekend, we'll invite you to participate in a number of different types of activities. We'll spend some time helping each of you to feel as safe as possible. We'll take our time getting to know each other by sharing a little at a time. Frequently during the weekend we will meet in small groups, where you can have more individual time to talk and share your feelings and observations.
Everyone will be given some opportunities to choose how to tell your story - through words, through art, through movement, and/or through music. We'll also introduce you to some different types of relaxation and visualization exercises you may choose to do at home to increase your abilities to cope and manage life stresses. We'll also give you time to wander the beautiful retreat grounds alone or with some of your fellow participants.
Survivors with perpetration history
Any person who has been adjudicated (found guilty) of sexual perpetration at any time in their life is not eligible for participation in the weekends. Because many survivors have sexually acted out in childhood, adolescence or even young adulthood, we do not wish to automatically exclude them from a Weekend of Recovery. However, to assess each participant on a case-by-case basis, we want to be able to discuss their perpetration history with them and their therapist. This means that in order to assure other participants that we have their safety in mind, we want to be able to screen anyone with such a history to determine if attending a weekend is in their best interest and the best interest of all participants. In such cases, an interview with the Weekends of Recovery Chairperson will be required before you will be accepted. In addition, if you have such a history, we require that you are currently in therapy and we require that in addition to speaking with you, you will also need to give your consent for us to consult with your therapist before approving you for the weekend. We encourage all potential participants to be honest when we call you about any such incidents(ces) in your past because some participants may be unable to deal with people with such histories.
Registration includes the costs of the facilitated Weekend of Recovery program, with our 8 skilled facilitators from the MaleSurvivor Weekend of Recovery Facilitator Team, plus lodging, 7 meals, and snacks. Bottled water, juices, tea and coffee will be available throughout the weekend. We have a variety of accommodations available for each weekend. Limited numbers of each type of accommodation will be available for each weekend, and will be distributed on a first come, first served basis. You can also save $50 more by registering during the 1st month registration is open.
In order to ensure safety for all participants, our policy is that participants plan to attend the entire weekend. Weekends begin at 12 noon on Friday, and run through 3 p.m. on Sunday. As you plan for attending one of our 2014 weekends, please be sure you plan for ample time to arrive at the site in time for the beginning of the workshop, and that you plan for attending the entire weekend. For some participants, this may require you to arrive in the city of the conference site on Thursday evening, and in some cases, you may need to plan to leave on Monday morning, as you may not find flights available on Sunday evening. More information on arrival and departure will be posted for each specific weekend.