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MaleSurvivor’s 53rd Weekend of Recovery
Level I: DARE TO DREAM
Join us for a beautiful fall weekend at
Hope Springs Institute, Peebles, Ohio
October 18-20, 2013


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MaleSurvivor Weekends of Recovery are open to any man, 18 or older, who has been sexually victimized as a child and/or assaulted or raped as an adult.

Hope Springs Institute is the location of our October Level I Weekend of Recovery. Hope Springs is located in the solitude of the foothills of the Appalachian Mountains in the small rural southwestern Ohio town of Peebles. Hope Springs offers a combination of colorful, very comfortable housing and 130 rolling acres of ridges, ravines, wooded acres and meadows, including two ponds, walking trails, wildflowers, wildlife, a campfire circle and a labyrinth. Hope Springs offers groups a chance for discovery and practice, for privacy and company, for safety and challenges. The Institute’s priorities are to offer you personal comfort and a challenge to grow utilizing the Land, your Body and your Spirit as primary teachers and caretakers. While at Hope Springs, you will take part in delicious, healthy food, warm, inviting accommodations and exquisite grounds. The vision of the Hope Springs Institute fits perfectly with the mission of MaleSurvivor: “The Center was established to ignite spirit and bring balance to lives. Our vision is of a world family in which people cherish each person’s uniqueness. We encourage dialogues across differences, creative resolution of conflict and nurturing of mind, body and spirit. Hope Spring honors and welcomes people of all faiths, cultures, races, ages, sexual orientations and abilities.” You can visit their website at www.hopespringsinstitute.com A variety of accommodations will be available, and we’ll have space for 28 men for this weekend. This weekend is one of our most popular weekends, so we encourage you to register early if you are interested.

Goals of the Level I Weekend of Recovery:
The facilitator team invites you to:

  • Dare to dream you can leave your isolation behind you at this weekend;
  • Dare to dream you can make real connections with the participants and facilitators at the weekend;
  • Dare to dream you can co-create and experience a sense of real safety and mindfulness;
  • Dare to dream you can claim your right to use your voice to become a powerful male survivor who is sensitive to his own feelings and experiences and those of other survivors here;
  • Dare to dream you can tell your story this time and be understood, believed and supported like you have always deserved;
  • Dare to dream you can experiment with being more creative, more vulnerable and letting go and still feel safe enough;
  • Dare to dreamyou can connect with the spontaneous part of you so you can learn to play safely and enjoy the experience;
  • Dare to dream you will be able to leave Hope Springs a freer, less burdened, and even a happier man, taking the connections you make here with you to utilize as you continue to heal and recover!

Facilitator Team:

Weekends of Recovery are facilitated by trained psychotherapists, utilizing the same clinical boundaries and code of ethics as adopted by the American Psychological Association. The weekends are adjuncts to participants’ ongoing recovery work with individual and/or group psychotherapy, twelve step programs, and individual spiritual work, and are not meant to substitute for the participants’ local support systems that are consistent with their own recovery. Dr. Howard Fradkin, a Psychologist with over 31 years of experience working with male survivors, co-chairs the facilitator team, along with Jim Struve, Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 35 years of experience working with male survivors. The team of facilitators includes other Psychologists, Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists, and Mental Health Counselors. Biographies of all staff members for this weekend can be found on the MaleSurvivor website at www.malesurvivor.org

Dr. Fradkin and Mr. Struve will be coordinating the Hope Springs facilitator team. The rest of the team for the weekend includes: Bill Burmester; Sandi Forti; Don Laufersweiler, Lynne MacDonnell; Ernesto Mujica; and Mikele Rauch.

MaleSurvivor reserves the right to make changes to the staff depending on enrollment.

The Role of Women Facilitators at the Weekends of Recovery:
One of the valuable resources at a Weekend of Recovery is the presence of women facilitators who bring a wealth of therapeutic experience with men who have had a history of sexual abuse. Women facilitators can offer the benefit of witness and exchange that may differ from what men have experienced. During the weekends, they share fully in the responsibilities and work of the team. The inclusion of women on the team offers men an opportunity to examine their reactions to women in a safe setting.

Is This For Me? How Can I Prepare for the Weekend?

For those working with professionals, we recommend you discuss your planned participation in this weekend to get their feedback and suggestions for how you can benefit as much as possible from the experience while keeping yourself as safe as you need to be. All participants must be able to safely and appropriately engage in structured group activities. After receiving confirmation of your registration, if you are in therapy, please go the website and download the form for your therapist to complete which confirms you and your therapist agree you are prepared for the weekend. If you have an already established support system of friends/family members/significant others, we also encourage you to talk with them about your participation so they can be available both before and after the weekend as needed to help you prepare and process your experiences.

If you are not in therapy, and/or do not yet have a support network, we encourage you to consider setting up an appointment with a therapist either before you come to the retreat, or as soon as possible after your return, and/or encourage you to explore what types of self-help groups and resources are available in your community or near by. This way you can follow up on some of the experiences and skills you learn that will help the weekend's learning stay fresh in your mind and help you apply what skills and awareness would most help your continuing recovery.

One of our staff members will be contacting you by phone within two weeks of when we receive your application to talk with you about your needs for the weekend and your readiness to participate. All participants must be able to safely and appropriately engage in structured group activities. If we have any concerns about you participating, we may suggest some steps you can take to enhance your readiness for this weekend or we may ask you to wait for a future weekend while you take some additional steps we believe would be important for you to benefit from the experience. Please do not schedule your travel arrangements until after your interview is completed and you have been told you have been accepted as a participant. The facilitator team will make every effort to complete that process as quickly as possible. You are encouraged to register early, as our weekends have been filling early – registering early can also help you save money on transportation and by taking advantage of the early registration discount).

Comments by participants who have attended previous Weekends are available at malesurvivor.org (see the testimonials section under the tab Weekends of Recovery). Many participants have told us that the weekend is a very intense and rewarding experience, and at the same time sometimes it is quite uncomfortable. We recognize that one of the challenges male survivors have is feeling comfortable enough to ask for help, especially when they are feeling most in need of the help. For participants who are aware they have a problem with dissociation, this can be an especially difficult challenge. We would encourage you to practice asking for help before the weekend, perhaps with your own therapist, as well as with friends and significant others, and to assess for yourself what gets in your way of asking for the help you need so you can let us know when we contact you prior to the retreat. The facilitators are all very skilled therapists, and often times we can be sensitive and intuitive enough to know you need help even when you are not asking. However, we will clearly need your help and ask you to take the risk to articulate your needs during the retreat. To the extent you can help us know you are needing some extra help at any time during the weekend, this will help you to have an even safer and hopefully more beneficial experience.

During the weekend, we'll invite you to participate in a number of different types of activities. We'll spend some time helping each of you to feel as safe as possible. We'll take our time getting to know each other by sharing a little at a time. Frequently during the weekend we will meet in small groups, where you can have more individual time to talk and share your feelings and observations.

Everyone will be given some opportunities to choose how to tell your story - through words, through art, through movement, and/or through music. We'll also introduce you to some different types of relaxation and visualization exercises you may choose to do at home to increase your abilities to cope and manage life stresses. We'll also give you time to wander the beautiful retreat grounds alone or with some of your fellow participants.

Policy Regarding Transgender and Intersex Participants

MaleSurvivor is committed to healing the sexual victimization of boys and men. However, MaleSurvivor recognizes that gender, as well as sexuality, exists on a continuum and many survivors of sexual assault may identify anywhere on this continuum, including being transgender or intersex. MaleSurvivor wants to honor this diversity while preserving the Weekends of Recovery as a space to heal in a community of men. It is our belief that the design of the Weekends of Recovery can best be utilized by individuals who currently identify as male and who want to heal in a male-identified space.

Any questions or concerns about the above policy may be directed to Howard Fradkin, PhD, or Jim Struve, LCSW, co-chairs of the Weekends of Recovery.

Survivors With A History Of Sexual Offending

Any person who has been convicted of sexual perpetration and/or has been placed on a sexual offender registry as an adult is ineligible for participation in the regularly scheduled Weekends of Recovery. If this is true for you, we recommend you do not register now, and instead, review the last paragraph in this section to learn how you may be able to attend a specially designed weekend in the future.

In instances of adjudication on sexual perpetration charges as a youth, individuals will be considered for eligibility and readiness for the Weekends of Recovery on a case-by-case basis through an interview with one of the Co-Chairpersons.
 MaleSurvivor understands that some survivors have sexually acted out in childhood, adolescence, or even adulthood, and we do not wish to automatically exclude them from a Weekend of Recovery. Therefore, all applicants to the Weekends of Recovery must complete an interview, and during that interview they will be screened for any instances of sexual offending in their history. When a history of sexual offending is disclosed, an interview with one of the Weekends of Recovery Co-Chairpersons will be required along with a consultation with their current psychotherapist to determine if they will be accepted based on consideration of their best interest and the best interest of all participants. We have an expectation that all potential participants will be honest in their screening interview and will disclose any such history or incidents in their past because some participants may experience safety concerns with people with such histories.

The MaleSurvivor Facilitator team believes that ALL survivors have a right and an ability to heal. To facilitate that goal, we will maintain a waiting list for men who are deemed inappropriate to attend one of our regularly scheduled Weekends because they have been convicted of sexual perpetration and/or have been placed on a sexual offender registry as an adult or as a youth. When we have gathered a sufficient number of names and the ability to facilitate such a weekend, it is our intention to offer a special weekend for these men to assist them to further their healing as survivors. To be placed on this waiting list, contact Howard Fradkin, PhD, Co-Chairperson, at hfradkin@malesurvivor.org and include a brief description of why you are requesting to be placed on this waiting list.

Registration Costs

Registration includes the costs of the facilitated Weekend of Recovery program, with our 8 skilled facilitators from the MaleSurvivor Weekend of Recovery Facilitator Team, plus lodging, 7 meals, and snacks. Bottled water, juices, tea and coffee will be available throughout the weekend. We have a variety of accommodations at Hope Springs. If you are not a MaleSurvivor member, we encourage you to join the organization and become a dues-paying member prior to registration both to secure a significant discount ($75 off) and to help support the work of MaleSurvivor. (NOTE: This is not the same as registering for website use with a log-in name; this is free) Limited numbers of each type of accommodation are available, and will be distributed on a first come, first served basis. You can also save $50 more by registering early!

All prices quoted below are for Early Registration (by August 30th)

CATEGORY AStudio Triple w/Private Bath-MaleSurvivor Member$695
CATEGORY AStudio Triple w/Private Bath-Non-Member$770
(12 studio beds available: this is also the building where all large group sessions are held)
CATEGORY BFarmhouse Double w/shared bath -MaleSurvivor Member$795
CATEGORY BFarmhouse Double w/shared bath - Non-Member$870
(14 farmhouse beds are available)
CATEGORY CDouble w/private bath- Cottage-MaleSurvivor Member$820
CATEGORY CDouble w/private bath- Cottage-Non-member$895
(only 2 beds available in the cottage; the opposite side is the safe room for the weekend)
CATEGORY DSingle Room, shared bath (may NOT be available), Member$895
CATEGORY DSingle Room, shared bath (may NOT be available), Non-Member$970

NOTE ABOUT SINGLE ROOMS and TRIPLE ROOMS: If this weekend fills as it has done in the past, it is highly unlikely there will be single rooms available. You are welcome to sign up for a single, however if the weekend fills, you will be moved to a double room if available or a triple as a third option if needed. We will contact you if a move is needed. At least half of all TRIPLE ROOMS will be reserved for scholarship recipients, so six triple room spaces will be available for all participants.

Registration after August 30th: Add $50 to costs above

To register for the weekend, we ask that you complete an online registration at www.malesurvivor.org and/or mail in a registration form. To hold your spot for the weekend, we are requesting at least $150 deposit with your registration. You will have the choice on the registration form to either prepay your registration in full at the time of registration or opt for a payment plan. If you want to take advantage of the early registration discount, your total registration must be paid by August 30th. Your balance will automatically be charged to your credit card on August 30th, and you will still receive the early registration discount. If you register after August 30th, all payments must be made by September 18, 2013. You can either pay the full amount at the time of registration, or you can choose the payment option, you will owe an additional $50 for regular registration, and we will bill your credit card for the $150 deposit when you register, and bill the balance of the total of the registration due based on your accepted accommodation type on September 18, 2013. If you register after September 18th, the total registration fee will immediately be billed to your credit card. You may also mail in checks to be received on the above mentioned dates. Holding your registration will be contingent on receipt of your additional registration fees on these dates. Any registration which is not paid in full by September 18, 2013 will be subject to cancellation and a $50 cancellation fee. Any cancellation after September 18th will be subject to the loss of all monies paid, unless we can find a replacement for your space in the weekend.

Registration will remain open until October 11th, provided there is space available. If you register after September 18th, you will be asked to pay in full at the time of registration. Please be aware that recent weekends have been filled at least one to two months in advance of the weekend.

Scholarship Availability

A limited number of partial scholarships will be available for this weekend. The number of scholarships we can offer is dependent on MaleSurvivor’s Scholarship Fund balance. If you have a need for a scholarship, please do not register for the weekend. Instead, access the “Apply for a Scholarship” application via the Weekends of Recovery menu tab at the MaleSurvivor website. After you complete the Scholarship Application Form, email it to Jim Struve, Weekend Co-Chairperson, at jimstruve@malesurvivor.org.

We ask that all scholarship recipients join as a paying member of MaleSurvivor to be eligible for a scholarship. Membership is based on a sliding fee scale according to your income. You can join MaleSurvivor by clicking on the 3rd tab down on the left hand side of the website that says “Join MaleSurvivor”.

Scholarship recipients are expected to accept assignment to a triple cabin. The maximum available for scholarship grants is 75% of the registration rate for a triple dorm room. If your scholarship request can be granted, Jim will contact you by email with authorization to register and directions about how to enter your scholarship into our payment system. We can only provide assistance with registration costs, and cannot at this time provide any assistance with transportation costs.

If you are in a position to make a financial contribution to our scholarship fund, you can make a donation on the registration form or through the MaleSurvivor website http://www.malesurvivor.org/memorial-fund.html Thanks for any help you can provide.

MaleSurvivor also has a designated Scholarship Fund for Men of Color, which has been funded by generous donors to MaleSurvivor. You can indicate on the scholarship application form if you are eligible for this fund.

Dining: The meals at Hope Springs are delicious, vegetarian cuisine. Previous participants who have been used to eating other diets have found the food at Hope Springs to be a refreshing change in their eating habits and have been surprised at the quality of the food choices! Other special dietary restrictions or needs must be indicated on your registration form. Bottled water, juices, coffee and tea, half and half and soy milk will be supplied all weekend long for you.

Smoking Policy: Guests may not smoke inside any building at the Institute- including guest rooms - out of consideration for other guests. Cigar and pipe smoking are also prohibited. Guests may smoke on the patio behind the farmhouse in the designated smoking area which will be indicated to you when you arrive.

Internet Access: The Institute has very limited wireless internet access, and we request that you only access the internet during break times and not during any regularly scheduled activities.

Other information about Hope Springs: Hope Springs has a no shoes policy in all buildings, so bring shoes that are easy to slip on and off. You’re welcome to bring indoor slippers or shoes. Slipper socks and indoor slippers can be found in each bedroom. No alcohol or un-prescribed drugs may be brought to the weekend. Cell phones do not work here. There are two phone lines you can use and there are 60 minute phone cards for sale for $2.

The walking trail goes through the woods, so bring socks, long pants, long sleeve shirts, bug protection and shoes that support you on rough terrain and are waterproof. Flashlights are provided.

All bedding, towels, hair dryers, shampoo, and shower gel are provided. Robes are also provided for each participant.

The facility is wheelchair accessible, and walkways and ramps allow easy access. If you need a scooter to get around, let us know.

GETTING TO HOPE SPRINGS
Cincinnati airport (which is actually in Kentucky) is about 75 miles away; Columbus airport is about 100 miles away, but you may find cheaper fares here (travel time is roughly 2¼ hours).

Transportation Coordination
After you have registered and been accepted for the weekend, your name and email address will be provided confidentially to our webmaster, who will provide you access to the MaleSurvivor Bulletin Board. It is important that if you would like to participate in the transportation bulletin board, the email address you provide must be the same as the email address you supply when you join as a free member of the website. On the board, you will then have access once you sign in to talk with others who are planning on attending the Hope Springs Weekend so you can offer to share or give rides to those needing help in getting from the airport to the Center. To protect your confidentiality, this part of the bulletin board will only be able to be accessed by those registered for the Hope Springs Weekend, and by the Weekend Co-Chairs. If you share a ride, please be respectful and offer assistance with paying for gas.

WHEN TO ARRIVE AND DEPART-MAKING PLANE RESERVATIONS

Please do not schedule your travel arrangements until after your interview is completed and you have been told you have been accepted as a participant. The facilitator team will make every effort to complete that process as quickly as possible. The earlier you register, the more possible that will be (which of course could help you save money on transportation and by getting an early registration discount).

The weekend begins at 12 noon on Friday, and ends Sunday at 3 pm. Please pay particular attention to the arrival policy below before making your travel plans. Given travel time, we recommend all participants plan to arrive in Cincinnati or Columbus on Friday no later than 9:30 am; and plan to depart on Sunday no earlier than 6 pm (6:30 for Columbus) . If you cannot accommodate your schedule to arrive and depart at these times, please be considerate and do not register. Late arrivals would miss important orientation information, and we ask that all participants plan to stay until the end of the weekend on Sunday to allow you sufficient time for closure. If you find that the only airline reservations you can find will require an overnight stay on either Thursday or Sunday, we are sorry, but we cannot provide overnight accommodations on Thursday or Sunday evening at Hope Springs. Accommodations are available near either airport, which will enable you to meet others if you plan on ride sharing.

Arrival Policy
Safety for all participants is our utmost concern. Therefore, it is a requirement that in order to participate in the weekend, participants must arrive at the beginning of the weekend, by 12 noon on Friday. In planning your trip, you are expected to take into consideration the unpredictable delays that may accompany your travel. While we understand you may encounter delays for many reasons, we are unable to allow anyone to begin the weekend if your delay is greater than 2 hours. In other words, you cannot expect to be admitted to the weekend after 2 pm for any reason. If you are experiencing a delay, we request you to call us to inform us of your arrival status. It is important to understand that in the event of your inability to attend due to late arrival, you will forfeit all monies paid for your registration. One strategy to avoid this situation is to arrive in the city of the weekend the night before, or a city near the airport. MaleSurvivor will provide you with information about budget hotels near the facility to help facilitate your stay. Your consideration of this policy will help strengthen the feeling of safety for all participants and help us to build a community.

For Your Comfort While Visiting Hope Springs:

The average high temperature for October is 65; the average low temperature is 44; which should make for a very comfortable stay for us. However, it is very common this time of year to have much warmer weather, especially during the day.

Therapist Recommendation Letter:
When you register online, you will notice a link to a therapist recommendation letter when you click the tab Weekends of Recovery on the home page; be sure to click on the Level I letter. If you register by mail, we will mail you the letter. We ask that all participants who are currently in therapy bring this letter to your therapist prior to the weekend, and ask them to complete it with you and send it back to us by Oct 15th. The information in this letter will help us to provide for any additional needs you may have for safety. It is our intention to use this letter to help ensure your safety, and in no way is it intended to disempower you or cast doubt on your own judgment about your readiness to participate in the weekend.

Consent Form
There is also a tab on the website under Weekends of Recovery which contains our Participant Consent Form-please download the Level I Consent Form. We suggest you download this form and review it before you are interviewed. We ask that you bring your copy to the weekend, where we will provide you another opportunity to ask any questions you have. All participants must sign a consent form in order to participate in the weekend.

SCHEDULE: Below is the tentative schedule for the weekend:

Male Survivor Weekend of Recovery Tentative Schedule
Oct 18-20, 2013

FRIDAY, OCT 18, 2013

10-12Registration
And Check In to Rooms
12-1Lunch
1-1:45Welcome and Guidelines for Participation
1:45-2:30Co-creating Safety Guidelines
2:30-3Introduction to Mind-Body Awareness
3-3:15Break
3:15-4:15Introducing Ourselves
4:15-4:30Break
4:30-6First Small Groups
6-6:30Break/Journaling/Reflecting/Networking
6:30-7:30Dinner
7:30-8:00Break/Survivor T-shirts
8-9:30Grounding and Centering
9:30-Journaling/Reflecting/Networking/Bedtime

SATURDAY, OCT 19, 2013

7-8Optional Walking Meditation
8-9Breakfast
9-9:15Check-In
9:15-10Preparing to Tell My Story
10-12Telling My Story-Small Groups
12-12:30Break/Reflecting/Art
12:30-1:30Mindfulness Quiet Lunch
1:30-3Optional Hike
Survivor T-Shirts
3-5Sculpting
5:15-6:15Small Groups
6:15-6:30Break
6:30-7:30Dinner
7:30-8Break/Journaling/Reflecting/Networking/T-shirts
8-10Shame Busting
10-Optional Drumming Circle/Campfire

SUNDAY, OCT 20, 2013

7-8Optional Walking Meditation
8-8:45Breakfast
9-9:15Check-In
9:15-11Community Building/Bridges to Home
11-11:15Break
11:15-12:45Brief evaluation; last small group
12:45-1Break
1-1:45Lunch
1:45-2Break
2-3Closing/Group pictures

ANY QUESTIONS:

Questions can be directed to Howard Fradkin at 614-445-8277, ext. 11, or emailed to hfradkin@malesurvivor.org; or to Trisha Massa, Community Outreach Director at email ytamassa@aol.com

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